“Willpower” or the psychological science of self-control

Willpower is one of the most important attitudes and characteristics you need to have, to be successful in what you are doing or want to do.Super power
Probably you know some of those people, who get done everything. If they have an idea in there mind, they realize it.
They tell you, that they want to quit there job, open there own business, move to another city and so on…
And a few months later, you talk again and they inform you that they did it – and of course with success!
And you feel like a small idiot, still doing the same stuff each day, event though you had the idea before, to quit your job. To open a business, to travel more, to move somewhere else.

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You Had A Dream?

You Had A Dream?

Believe In Yourself And Don’t Give Up With Your Own Business

You have your own business or think to start one?

But at the moment just stuck or don’t know how to continue?

I have a motivating video of my professional marketing friend: Kath Luty

If this is how you currently feel about your business, it’s time to make a change. Find the right kind of guidance that will suit your needs, your means and your authentic self.

If you feel frustiated or not motivated, watch this video:

What makes you happy?

When we think about our life. Our inner desires, wishes and values and what we want to achieve finally – it always come back to happiness.

We may all have different plans and desires.
We want to buy a house for the time of retirement, travel or visit some specific places, aspire to a position or live a certain lifestyle.
But what is behind these dreams? What motivates us to aim it? 
In the end, it’s mostly the ambition to be happy.

  • To buy a house is the intention to live a more peaceful life and don’t worry about money in times of retirement. Security may makes us relaxed. Relaxation is a good initial position for happiness.
  • To see new places, cultures and meet new people. Traveling is broaden up our mind. We learn more about life. The world becomes smaller and yourself richer. Or probably you just want to relax on the beach. But coming out of your small world and visit either inspiring new sides of life or the most beautiful places in the world, makes us happy.
  • If your intention is to live another lifestyle, you may not be happy yet with your current one. To much stress, pressure or a daily routined “hamster wheel lifestyle“. So your will is probably to change it into more relaxation, more quality, love and spending more time with your beloved ones.

It doesn’t matter which desires and intentions you have in life, in the end we all seeking for more happiness.

My wish was always to stay at the sunny side. I love the beach and sun and love to travel. So I made this to my lifestyle.
But even for me, I needed to prepare it for 1-2 years actively.
So thats why I want to share here with you how to start.

The four steps you have to work on. To change something and start your life, where you can be more happy.

1. Change your values (In my case: live with less luxury, enjoy the small moments, learn to love everybody and everything, feel home everywhere)
2. Change my habits (in my case: limit your belongings, learn and study every day for it)
3. Follow masters. Search for some „idols“, people, who already live that life, what you want to live. Follow them. Study them. What did they do for it? How could they became this characteristic? What are their values, habits, daily routines?
4. Stop dreaming and act. Now its time to make a plan and change it. If you start now continuously, you can achieve it quite soon. 
Of course you have to be patience. But if I can do it, everyone can do it! 🙂

If you need help with it, contact me. Would love to provide you with infos and ideas or just sharing thoughts.

Finally here a video of my time with Terra nation as a beacher in Milos. Its our HAPPY beach version of Pharrel Williams.

Become happy. Feel happy. Be happy.

Are You A Stress junkie?

Are you a stress junkie?

There is a type of people – and today it not less – who is yearning for actionism each day.
Typically these people are successful in their career – but are they really successful in life?!
In the beginning they aspire towards succeeded events, but later on they just running after actions.

People like that feel euphoric under physical stress and in combination with a rush of success and the desire to experience all the time new things, makes them unstoppable.

For those people a wellness-retreat is nothing else than an active sport power weekend, a chill-out evening at home means to work from home and not being outside anywhere else in the world.

They can do that for a while, but also they are not super mans and don’t have not a super man body. Indeed your body is amazing and can do a lot of things you probably don’t really know about. But you need to restore and have breaks. Your body needs to shut down the system – same as a computer. You need to empty the battery to filling it with new power.

Do you know these kind of people? Or probably you are one of these?
I you not sure, make your test here and check if you a part of the stress junkie gang.

    1. Do you have often problems with falling asleep?
    2. Are you reading or working, when you eat alone?
    3. Is it difficult for you to do nothing?
    4. Is you mobile phone always switched on, even if it’s not necessary?
    5. Do you like to work on weekends and holidays?
    6. Can you work everywhere and every time?
    7. Do you think, its hard to take holidays?
    8. Do you feel anxiety, when you think about retirement?
    9. Is it long time ago you met friends outside your job?
    10. Do you zap permanently though the channels, when you watch TV?

If you could answer more than 4 times the the questions with “Yes”, you should really thing about a better work/life-system. Because this speed limit will not last forever.

I know what I am walking about, because I am the same type and made my experience. With the age of 25 I had my first burn out. It took me minimum one year to generate from it. But so I came to Yoga. Today I won’t miss my yoga, meditation or just mental relaxing part of the day.  It’s so important and makes as  – long-term – even stronger and gives us more power.

Are you a stress junkie?

If you want to know how, just follow my blog. I will share with my experience and of other stress junkies, with useful tips that help you to guide you.

Analyse your personality

Before you probably want to change something in your life, it’s good to analyse your personality.

To become a clearer idea what person you are, what motivates you and what are your strengths and skills.

I can just highly recommend finding out more about yourself, before you start to change something in your life. Doesn’t matter if it’s your job situation, your family life or how and for what you spend your leisure time.

I found a good test the analyse your personality in the following categories:

1. Where is your energy naturally directed? Are you acting more Introverted or Extroverted?

2. What kind of information do you naturally notice and remember? Are you understanding more as a Sensor or Intuitive?

3. How do you come to conclusions? Do you decide and trust on your heart and Feelings or are you even more the Thinker and decide rationally?

4. What kind of environment makes you the most comfortable?  Are you a Judger or Perceiver in your daily life?

Make your personal test! Its for free.

TEST NOW!

It helped me to understand myself, 5 years ago. When I struggled and felt lost, after a burning out. Where I knew, I have to change something.

So what personality type are you? 🙂

How to increase your weekly success? 5 tips for a better weekly time management

Who hasn’t been confronted with situations like these:

We often kick our ToDo’s  – particularly the less comfort ones –  down the road.
We set goals and important ToDo’s for the following week, but we dont find the time to achieve and fix it all.
We feel unsatisfied, tired and sometimes burned out.

Most of it leads to your time management. And how disciplined you manage it every week.

That’s why I want to share with you some tips and tools to increase your weekly success and time management, that helped me the most.

1. Plan your week weekly
Lets become it a regular habit by creating a date with yourself in the end of the week on Sunday – or even Monday morning is ok.
Give you one hour to reflect the last week and plan your next week, with the upcoming next steps I will tell you now.

2.Review your the past week what what you’ve done and achieved.
List down 3 things each:
1. Lessons I learned this week
2. Who inspired me this week
3. List 3 things I am proud of (what you did, achieved or even what happened)
4. What was the most unnecessary and time-consuming things, i’ve done this week.

3. Analyze things that not happened:
Review on your last 3 goals for the week.
Could I achieve my goals?
If not, why not?
If so, what was it, that helped me to achieve it?

3. Define 3 main goals for this upcoming week.
But keep it SMART:
1. Specific:
Goals should be simplistically written
and clearly define what you are going to do.
2. Measurable:
Goals should be measurable so that you have tangible evidence that you have accomplished the goal. Look for
short-term or smaller measurements to built the goal.
3. Achievable:
Goals should be achievable; they should stretch you slightly so you feel challenged, but defined well enough so that you can achieve them.
You must possess the appropriate knowledge, skills,
and abilities needed to achieve the goal.
4. Results-focused:
Goals should measure outcomes, not activities.
5. Time-bound:
Goals should be linked to a timeframe that creates
a practical sense of urgency, or results in tension
between the current reality and the vision of the goal.
Without such tension, the goal is unlikely to
produce a relevant outcome.

Try to variate each week with your goals to increase the growth of all your areas:
your social life (family, partner, friends), personal growth (learning, sports, reading, etc.), business (job tasks, improving your skills, relationship with your boss, colleagues, main targets, etc.) or other hobbies and activities you like to do and increase in any field.

4. Create and define your tasks to achieve your weekly goals.
Break it down and create out of your goals concrete tasks you want to be done till the end of the week.
I prefer to reduce to a few smaller tasks than having one big tasks.

For example:
You have to write a concept about your new business idea.
Instead of taking the task “writing a business concept”, break it down to smaller tasks as
1. Brainstorming
2. Rough idea sketch
3. Create a financial plan
4. Create a time schedule
5. Write a detailed concept
6. Fine-tuning and design

In the end spread it over the week in smaller brackets instead of doing it in one big step.
You won’t find the time for it and postpone it probably.

5. Schedule your upcoming week
Plan your week with a online or offline calendar where you can bring it to your daily schedule.
A) First make a new ToDo list and list all the tasks from your following sources:
1. Your defined goal tasks
2. All the tasks you haven’t finished the week before
3. Tasks, which are set and have to be done anyway (regular housework, regular meetings, etc.)

B) Than prioritize the them all in
PRIO1: “must have be done”,
PRIO2: “should be done” and
PRIO3: “would be nice to be done this week”

C) Now but them all into your daily schedule by taking the most important tasks first and put them on the beginning of the week and beginning of the day, if possible.
Go on with the 2nd and third prio’s until you discovered the whole week with all the tasks on your list.

In the end of the week you start with your one-hour weekly planning again and let it become a regular habit.

One online tool that helped me with that is for example WEEK PLAN
https://app.weekplan.net
Its free, if you don’t want to by the full version.

So start today to increase your weekly success.

10 Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness

10 Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness
Today a want to share with you an article from Angel Chernoff about 10 little habits that steal your happiness and should be avioded:

10 Little Habits that Steal Your Happiness

You ultimately become what you repeatedly do.  If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you.  Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:

1.  Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.

Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own.  Unfold your own tale and bring it to life.  You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming.  Incredible change happens when you decide to take control.  This means consuming less and creating more.  It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you.  It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.

If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you’ve got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings.  Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.  If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.

2.  Waiting for the perfect moment.

Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment.  Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them.  So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what they’re here to do.  The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc.  Wake up!  These states of perfection are myths.  They do not exist.

Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection.  You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.  Read The Power of Now.

3.  Working for nothing more than a paycheck.

Work without interest is imprisonment.  Even if you aren’t super-passionate about your work, you’ve got to at least be interested in it.  When you design a lifestyle in which your work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.

Think about it.  This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it.  It’s not all about the money; it’s about you.  Ignore the propaganda, especially from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.”  Reverse this message and mediate on it:  “I will do work that defines me.”  When the essence of who you are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates fulfillment.

Bottom line:  Interest in your work puts quality in your output and happiness in your mind.  Don’t settle for a paycheck.  Shuffle around until you find work that interests you.

4.  Harboring feelings of hate.

As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”  Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us.  It takes control of us.  We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating.  And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.

Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart.  So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate.  Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t look back.  Read The Mastery of Love.

5.  Holding tight to worries and fears.

Someday when you look back over your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never came to fruition – they were completely unfounded.  So why not wake up and realize this right now.  When you look back over the last few years, how many opportunities for joy did you destroy with needless worry and negativity?  Although there’s nothing you can do about these lost joys, there’s plenty you can do about the ones that are still to come.

You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul.  Let go of them.  Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles.  It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation.  It’s just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down.

Let go of your worries and fears, of your rage and jealousy, of your need to always be right and control others.  Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to have everything your way.  Underneath all these layers of nonsense there is a happy, productive person.  When you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully fulfilling.

6.  Dwelling on difficulties.

A bad day is just a bad day.  Choose not to make it anything more.  Times of adversity will inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work; yet you don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re headed.  Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.

Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities.  There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you’ve chosen.  Events may be terrible and inescapable at times, but you always have choice – if not when, then how, you may endure and proceed onward.

7.  Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.

There are two variations of contentment in life – fleeting and enduring.  The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth of your mind.  At a glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious that the latter is far superior.

Enduring contentment sustains itself through life’s ups and downs, because through them your mind remains confident and at peace.  On the other hand, when life’s fleeting changes have the ability to ruffle your mind into a frenzy, even the most elaborate physical comforts won’t make you any happier for very long.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.

8. Trying to make a big difference all at once.

If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you.  Making a big difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely stressful.  However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually fairly easy.  You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you.

Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the ripples spread naturally.  If you want to change a person’s mind or mood, sometimes you have to change the minds or moods of the people around them first.  For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile just might make others smile too.  In this subtle way, you can touch the masses with your thoughtfulness without stressing yourself out.

9.  Holding on to someone who hurts you.

Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.  When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you.  It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine.  Do NOT strive to impress them any further.  Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something to them.  Nothing needs to be proven.  Do not act with any thought of them ever again.  Read 1,000 Little Things.

10.  Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.

Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste.  It makes no sense.  It’s innate, invisible, unquantifiable characteristics that create lasting attraction.

Just as some people enjoy the smell of mint, while others prefer the scent of cinnamon, there is an undeniable, magnetic draw that attracts you to the qualities of certain people, places, and things.  Sometimes it’s even the scars your soul shares with them that reels you in and creates the very hinges that hold you together in the long run.

More information about Angel and her blog:

Marc and Angel Hack Life

About Marc and Angel

Marc and Angel

Passionate writers, admirers of the human spirit, and full time students of life, Marc and Angel Chernoff enjoy sharing inspirational advice and practical tips for life on their popular personal development blog Marc and Angel Hack Life.  Currently the site contains over 600 articles on productivity, happiness, love, work, and general self improvement, and has attracted over 95 million page views since its inception in the summer of 2006.

Marc and Angel both share a great passion for inspiring others to live to their fullest potential, and they honestly feel best when they are inspiring others to be their best.  They started their blog with the goal of inspiring as many people as possible.  And they work passionately every day to fulfill this goal through the thoughts and ideas they share online.

Story of: Heather Hansen

Today we want to introduce you to a wonderful, unique and open minded artist and entrepreneur: HEATHER HANSEN.

Heather is an LA, New Orleans-based artist which uses performance, her body, movement, and charcoal and pastel to create her large-scale drawings.
By moving her joints, extending her back, stretching and contracting, Heather creates drawings.
Her project ‘Emptying Gestures,’ “is an experiement in kenitect drawing.” She says, “I am searching for ways to download my movement directly onto paper, emptying gestures from one form to another and reating something new in the process.”

Heather Hansen – Emptied Gestures from Heather Hansen on Vimeo.

More information about Heather and her porjects:
http://heatherhansen.net